[marriage & in-laws] A WIFE THAT INSULTS HER HUSBAND OUTSIDE IN THE STREETS

I'm in a married couple and my wife is giving me a lot of shame over this issue.

I make about 50 million won after taxes and she makes about 20 million won (~15K USD).

I pay 100% of our expenses with my income, and she doesn't pay 1 won.

I asked her how much she had saved, and she said nothing.

She said, "Why are you looking at my money?"

It was supposed to be a two-income situation, but it's not a two-income situation.

Since my wife has this mindset, I haven't done any housework since.

But this is where it started to become a problem.

She's always saying things to her advantage and humiliating me everywhere we go.

I found out by accident from my sister-in-law that she's always insulting me saying how I don't spend anything on living expenses and that despite living in a two-income household, she does all the house chores.

When I nag her about it, she said that other husbands don't look over their wives' money, and looks at me and calls me cheap.

She said that her friends' husbands don't have husbands like me, that despite being a single-income household, their husbands still help with house chores.

She claims she's a working alone, even though we have two income streams.

How can she say that she's doing everything alone when she doesn't spend anything on living expenses?

I told her that if she was gonna act like that, I'll be the breadwinner alone and that she can be a stay at home wife but she didn't want that.

What should I do? She doesn't wanna spend on living expenses but she also doesn't want to be a stay at home wife?

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1. [+155, -3]

I think that it's better to just get a divorce... What does that woman want anyway? Using the money earned by OP for daily expenses while keeping her own earnings as personal savings, and the fact that she's telling OP not to look at her money, it seems to ultimately imply that if OP retires and cannot earn money, she intends to live alone with the accumulated assets, doesn't it? And before all that happens, she just intends to live and eat off OP's money so is there even any reason to be living together?

2. [+124, -3]

It's honestly better to throw her away before you get kids

3. [+108, -4]

Tell her "yup, I intend to be cheap so let's just use our own money and live separately. If you're gonna criticize me no matter what I do, then I'll just be stingy and not spend money. Get a husband who's willing to help around the house even if he's working full time."ㅋㅋㅋ Every couple live under different circumstances. You either fully takes care of the child while the spouse works, or you earn a lot and have enough leisureㅋㅋㅋㅋ no but I don't know what she believes in to be acting like that when she earns 20 million a yearㅋㅋㅋㅋ

4. [+77, -2]

(Commentor is a man) OP, if your wife constantly compares you to other women's husbands, then just tell her that you'll agree to a divorce so she should just go look for another husband. And then just stop paying her living expenses. Tell her that you guys can do your own separate share of house chores and try living a few months like that. She's gonna find out and stop pestering you about it.

5. [+67, -2]

If she doesn't even spend 1 won in living expenses, then it's not a dual-income household but a single-income

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